“Am I a bad person for seeing sex workers?” This is a question I’m asked a lot! Watch this video to find out what I think.
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Hey, it’s Georgie here. I’m recording this video to talk about a question I get asked by escort clients quite a lot. That question is “am I bad person because I see escorts?”
This question comes to me from some of the people on my email mailing list. I always make a point of asking new people who are on my email list to share their thoughts and tell me what they need to know, and this one comes up often. I mean, it’s not always that direct – sometimes people say, “How do I stop feeling guilty after seeing an escort?” or “How can I make sure I don’t seem creepy when I’m asking for what I want?”
But these questions all come from the same problem, and that problem is, that escort clients worry that seeing escorts is bad, and that they’re bad people for going ahead and doing it.
I’m going to explain why this happens, and why seeing sex workers is totally fine, as long as you’re treating them with respect. I really hope you watch this all the way through to the end, because if you’re a client who’s ever doubted yourself, you need to hear this.
So we know that most of the stuff we see about sex work in movies, on TV, all that stuff, is really negative. There’s this stereotype that all sex workers are being abused and they they’re victims, and the idea that all clients are creepy, or desperate, or both. This happens basically because the world in general has no idea what sex work is really like.
And I’ll admit, that when I first started working as an escort, I had no idea either. I DID assume that the people I’d be meeting would be creepy. I did assume that only desperate guys paid for sex. And I can tell you, I was in for a shock, because my clients turned out to be some of the most normal, regular sorts of people imaginable. I met tons of guys who could have dated or picked up women if they felt like it, and tons of guys who weren’t just trying to get laid but were also trying to enjoy some company, talk to someone about their lives, and just make friends with me the same as they would with any other person.
Also, it wasn’t just guys. People of all genders see sex workers. A lot of my work comes from seeing couples, and those people aren’t desperate or creepy either, they’re just regular folks wanting to get a bit of adventure into their sex lives.
Now, I’m not saying that sex work is an asshole-free zone. And this is the problem with the way movies and TV and stuff talk about my job, because when people get the idea that sex workers are dodgy and that sex work clients are creepy, sometimes some people think it’s okay to contact me and act creepy or sleazy, or to treat me like an object instead of a human being. This really sucks – it sucks for me, because I’m not being treated the way that I deserve, and it sucks for them, because they’re either getting a very bad service from me – because they’ve pissed me off – or I’ll just say no, and they won’t even get a booking in the first place.
So, one thing I would advise, if you’re worried that you might be a bad person for seeing escorts, is that you make sure you’re treating your worker with respect and treating them like any other professional. That means paying their fee, caring about whether they’re having a good time, and of course, stopping and making sure they’re okay if there are any signs they’re unhappy. Doing this stuff builds trust, makes for better sex and means you can relax.
If you are being professional, and respectful, I say go for it. And let go of the idea that seeing sex workers is bad – because if you’re feeling guilty or ashamed it’s going to get in the way of you being honest with your escort about what you need, and it’s also going to get in the way of you both relaxing and having a fun time together.
In all my years working, I’ve met so many different types of people. And almost everyone I’ve met has been great. Guys who see sex workers are just regular guys. Girls who see sex workers are just regular girls. And couples who see sex workers are just regular couples. It really is that simple.