Is it ever okay to walk away from an escort booking?
Here’s a tough question for you! “Is it ever okay to walk away from an escort booking, if there’s something I’m not happy with?” I know there are some people who worry that they’ll arrange an escort date and turn up to find that the person they’ve booked doesn’t look like their photos. Or maybe you don’t hit it off, and it’s an awkward booking. Or maybe you get there and realise you’re too nervous and don’t want to stay. So, in any of these situations, is it okay to walk away?
Well, the short answer is ‘yes.’ But there’s something you need to know before you do, and we’re going to get to that shortly, so make sure you watch this video all the way through to the end.
Everyone Has a Right to Walk Away
The thing about sex work, and sex in general, and that is that everyone has a right to say no. When you pay for the services of an escort, you’re not paying for sex; you’re paying for the opportunity to connect with another human being and to access their time and expertise. But either of you can still say no to any sexual act, at any time.
This means that if you’re in a booking with a sex worker and they don’t want to do a particular sexual position, or they’re not up for a particular sort of kink, or maybe they need to stop entirely for some reason, you always have to respect that. It also means that if you want to so ‘no’ to a particular sexual activity, or to the whole booking, then you’re allowed to do that. If you turn up and realise you’re not ready, or if you don’t like the person once you meet them, whatever. You don’t have to justify yourself. You have the right to walk away.
But, here’s the catch. You still have to pay.
Why pay, if you’re not doing the booking?
Escorts are businesspeople. When we put time aside to see you, we’re giving you space in our schedules that could be taken up by other paying clients. If you choose to walk away once you’ve turned up for your escort date, that’s okay…but you do have to pay the full session fee. Otherwise we’re losing money just because you decided you weren’t going ahead, and that’s not fair.
Imagine, for example, you were booking a plane ticket to go on holiday. In most cases, if you decide at the last minute that you don’t want to go to Hawaii, you’re still going to be charged. And that’s because it’s unfair to ask a business to put time and space aside for you that could have been given to a paying customer.
In the case of escorts, it doesn’t really matter what the reason is. Whether you think the person doesn’t look like you expected, or you’re too nervous, or you feel sick, whatever. That escort doesn’t deserve to miss out on your session fee.
Do your Due Diligence
So how do you avoid this problem, if you’re worried about having to walk away and worried about losing money? Well, because you do have to pay, it’s important that you do your research before you book, and also make sure you’re ready. I call this ‘doing your due diligence.’
Escorting is like any other industry. You’ll meet a range of people who all run their businesses in different ways, have different personalities so, like any other business, before you choose to commit to an appointment you need to do your research first to make sure the person you’re choosing is professional and suits your needs.
I recommend reading an escort’s profile carefully, following them on Twitter, checking out their selfies, reading their blogs. When you contact them to request a session, be clear about what you want. Pay attention to the way they communicate, so you can work out if they’re professional. You might even be able to meet them for a social booking before you commit to a longer session. Whatever you choose, it’s your responsibility to judge whether an escort is right for you. It’s no use just hoping for the best.
And make sure that you’re feeling ready to meet with them. If you’re too nervous, or not sure if you can go through with it, I recommend waiting. Don’t try and book with an escort and then chicken out five minutes beforehand, it’s not fair to the worker and it’s going to make it hard for you to get a date with them in the future.
If you do your due diligence, do your research, you’re going to reduce the risk of things not working out. That’s the way to avoid having to walk away. But remember, if you do walk, you still have to pay – so it’s worth putting the effort in beforehand to make sure your escort is right for you.